“Wait, Is it a romantic date?” Podcast Episode 209: Bottoming with Chingy | Autostraddle

Why don’t we make some sound for the bottoms in the home! (It is myself, the base at home.) Bottom lifestyle happens to be very a Thing™ Online lately! Exactly what will it truly suggest are a bottom? Exactly why has got the tradition decided bottoming is similar to becoming worried to inquire of for what you would like? And exactly how does a person go-about choosing should they fancy bottoming?!

With these concerns rattling around our thoughts, requiring responses, Drew and that I knew there was just one person we’re able to choose for a curved, enthusiastic talk about bottoming: The Gay Chingy AKA Chingy Nea, AKA The Bottom Supreme. Chingy is just one of the best folks i understand writing and tweeting these days, and also as a bottom me, Im recognized to contact her my leader. Chingy allows us to tease what it methods to be a bottom, precisely why she detests “smol bean” bottom society, yourself as hole, plus body as

whole

. Its a truly breathtaking dialogue, easily perform say-so me! Please understand that i know that we state “gorgeous” approximately three thousand instances this event, I am also pursuing assistance for my personal condition. (The condition is speaking like 57 year old white gay man.)

And! This week’s online game entails myself speculating if the complicated plots Drew defines fit in with a film or an aspiration she had circa 2006. It is hard!


SHOW NOTES

+ Read Chingy’s
Bottom Manifesto
, follow the woman
on Twitter
and
IG
!

+listed here is a summary of all of the films that received used in her game:


  • The Seventh Seal

    (1937)

  • Bringing-up Child

    (1938)


  • Pierrot le Fou


    (1965)

  • Dark Swan

    (2010)

+Watch Anna Faris carry out the best work of her job in

Smiley Face!


+Let

Shohreh Aghdashloo talk you to definitely rest while dressed as Chrisjen


Avasarala


from

The Expanse

because you are entitled to that.


+Cindy Wilson of The B52s is very hot and frankly? “Love Shack” nevertheless whips!


+
Robert Mitchum
, stone-cold fox.



EPISODE


Chingy

: I’ve simply already been bottoming since I was, I’m not sure, as far back as I am able to keep in mind.


Drew

: Cue Rags to Riches from

Goodfellas.


Chingy

: dating back to i could remember, I always desired to end up being a base, no, but sort of

[intro plays]


Drew

: Hi, I’m Drew.


Christina

: I Am Christina.


Drew

: Thanks for visiting

Hold off, So Is This a romantic date

?


Christina

:

Hold off, Is This a romantic date?

is an Autostraddle podcast centered on usually the one, the only real the largest concern your times: hold off, Is This a romantic date?


Drew

: And, wow, i must say i only froze up indeed there.


Christina

: I was like, oh shit, I became expected to say some thing! [laughs]


Drew

: i am actually fast for the banter, my personal head just… the fact is that I happened to be checking out over my video game records, which we aren’t at yet because we still have to present ourselves. Therefore, I’m going to attempt to stay dedicated to one task at one time.


Christina

: Focus upwards!


Drew

: i am Drew Gregory, i will be a writer for Autostraddle, and a filmmaker, and a trans woman.


Christina

: Hi, my name is Christina Tucker, forgot my personal finally title for a hot moment, no big deal. Im in addition an author at Autostraddle and various other locations on the web, a podcaster, a gay black girl. Which is sorts of it, puppy, that is me.


Drew

: i really like it. Okay, today we-


Christina

: today the game.


Drew

: are we able to play the online game?


Christina

: Can we get right to the online game? I will show’re excited, I can show’re merely vibrating.


Drew

: very, i have been keeping an aspiration diary since 2007, and assumption with this video game is-


Christina

: I didn’t know this about you!


Drew

: Yes, it isn’t really as current today, I accustomed record all my ambitions and from now on it’s only if one thing actually sticks. But, the assumption within this video game is, am we explaining the plot of an aspiration I’d whenever I was actually a teenager, or am we explaining the land of a movie that we appreciated as I was a teenager?


Christina

: Oh guy, fine.


Drew

: Thus, the way it’s going to get is we’ll usually describe it as a dream and in the most important individual. Very, if it was actually

Celebrity Wars,

I’d resemble, I’m in room and that I’m combating as an element of a rebellion, so there’s a wicked  guy that is dressed in a black colored robot suit and it also turns out he’s my father. That’s the way I’ll explain it, how we explain goals, but often it would be a dream, sometimes it’ll end up being from a film. Ready?


Christina

: i am something, I’m not sure that I’m prepared, but let’s stone. Why don’t we see just what I’m able to carry out here.


Drew

: Okay, I’m on a coastline and I see this weird guy dressed up in black colored. He tells me that he’s dying and we could play a-game to choose if I stay or if perhaps the guy takes myself. I find a way to get away, but every-where I go, everyone is unwell and I feel just like dying still is soon after me.The just pleased part happens when We fulfill a theater troupe and they’re a lot of enjoyment.


Christina

: This,i believe, is actually an aspiration.


Drew

: this will be Ingmar Bergman’s

The Seventh Seal

from 1957.


Christina

: this will be probably going to be a genuine gotcha on CT’s traditional flick information, because everything I realize Drew, within puberty, had not been performing was actually watching films that I’m going to acknowledge. At this point, I’m variety of wishing that I’ve seen do not require. I think which will be more fun for my situation.


Drew

: Another one, I’m ending up in my children and a few Italian United states gangsters. One of many gangsters demands that we give over some funds, but my loved ones and that I was able to get away. We hightail it through all this cold surface, on the road we satisfy an actress and relate to this lady. We result in a suburb. I think we are going to begin an innovative new life with each other until she requires us to a large mansion, and that I realize it is one of the gangster. It was all a trap, the gangster comes there’s a confrontation. I kill him, the fantasy closes making use of the celebrity executing a musical number.


Christina

: Is this a movie?


Drew

: this could be a dream I experienced in 2008.


Christina

: Okay, wow. Boy, yeah, i suppose I have to understand that its 2000, it really is old school received head. That is what I have to keep in mind.


Drew

: additionally similar, just what flicks was I enjoying at the time and how a lot did that influence my personal dreams?


Christina

: Well, yeah, plainly quite a lot!


Drew

: A fun simple truth is that I was in fact, i did not integrate this because I thought this could give it out, however the gangster was actually Tony Soprano because I happened to be enjoying

The Sopranos

in 2008. Therefore, that’s a fun small fact. Okay, next one, We have an essential assignment, but this hot girl shows up and begins sidetracking me personally. I do want to be with her, but I also should get might work done, and so I tell the lady to go away. She keeps after me personally. Suddenly, a leopard appears in my own area and I have to spend other countries in the fantasy trying to find the leopard. I am still truly nervous, I never complete could work, but at the least the lady is actually hot.


Christina

: it has as an aspiration of yours, it’s becoming a Drew fantasy.


Drew

: This Will Be Howard Hawks’

Bringing Up Baby

from 1938.


Christina

: No, but that’s an aspiration of yours, that’s the many Drew fantasy i have ever heard. Now at this stage, i am just going to be spinning movie background, to suit my whims.


Drew

: Great, I adore that. Okay, I’m at an event and that I you shouldn’t like any individual there. At long last, I see this woman, we once had a crush on therefore we choose keep collectively. We head to the woman house, but they are chased down by this selection of guys who will be wanting to kill the woman. We end up on a beach and it also seems like we’re going to be okay up until the men discover us. She ends up becoming into this additional man, so I just take cartoonish dynamite and determine to blow myself up


Christina

: Movie.


Drew

: this is exactly! It is Jean Luc Goddard’s

Pierrot ce Fou

, from 1965.


Christina

: haven’t observed, but that seems like a ding dang flick to me.


Drew

: Great, Everyone loves it. There’s a narration explaining an odd watercraft like design that is impractical to wreck. I am going on a retreat around the design, the escape is sort of theater related, kind of religious. We have a crush about this girl on retreat, but she has a boyfriend. Amid the shows and rituals, there’s a lot of crisis between me and this woman and her date, it closes beside me by yourself. There has been a sequence revealing that watercraft design is actually impossible to ruin because a mechanical arm fixes it for the evening.


Christina

: that might be any such thing in plenty techniques, I’m going to say movie once more, you need to?


Drew

: it really is an aspiration from 2011, that did have narration from another person, you understand, it occurs!


Christina

: This is really great promo to own an aspiration journal, because I believe want it could be fun easily could remember my aspirations this way.


Drew

: No person likes as soon as you explain your desires in their eyes. I really do however, and I also’m your buddy, when you want to write-down the dreams and tell me, I would personally love to hear about them.


Christina

: Okay, which is great to listen.


Drew

: You will find two even more.


Christina

: Okay.


Drew

: i am in a lovely garden with a group of buddies, each of us be seemingly getting up from becoming drugged. We are forced to shower in an acid that empties pigment therefore we be blond and blue-eyed. The people in charge begin training united states to destroy, as it happens this place has been run by a crazy dictator, we resist acquiring completely brainwashed. Absolutely this lady truth be told there i’ve a crush on and I also persuade the girl to flee with me, while leaking out I have shot and slain, although girl gets out. Whenever she will leave the prison, she knows we’re in the middle of a forest generally there’s nowhere commit.


Christina

: Movie.


Drew

: that will be initial fantasy inside my dream diary from, we mentioned, “2007.” Is in reality 2006.


Christina

: Wow.


Drew

: I always thought it absolutely was fascinating that I perish into the fantasy, although other person continues on. Nevertheless now, there is some weird gender things going on indeed there, and I’m planning need certainly to contemplate any particular one for a while.


Christina

: Definitely do this.


Drew

: Okay, i’ve yet another.


Christina

: Okay.


Drew

: i have been given the chance to end up being a ballerina, my personal mom insists i will not manage to do so. There’s this additional woman in the program exactly who i believe is hot, but i am stressed she is going to change myself. I’m struggling in rehearsal, but-end up making together with the woman, we connect. This really is hot, but personally i think me shedding control, we get back to the dancing tv show. My own body seems to be morphing into something different, i am worried that i will ruin.


Christina

: this can be a movie.


Drew

: Thus,

Black Swan

.


Christina

: Yes, that is

Black Swan

, certainly.


Drew

: maybe you have viewed

Dark Swan

? That has been one I was thinking you observed.


Christina

: I’ve come across

Black Swan

, I… Fun reality, I proceeded a night out together with men to see

Dark Swan

.


Drew

: Wow.


Christina

: only direct situations I did.


Drew

: the thing that was that like?


Christina

: Weird, it was odd.


Drew

: Do you such as the flick? Did he just like the motion picture?


Christina

: In my opinion, I’d currently observed it, In my opinion I found myself love, “Let’s get notice it once more.” I think, I was extremely pro

Black Swan,

and for directly heterosexual reasons, certainly.


Drew

: Sure, okay.


Christina

: And, he was like, “which was strange.” And I also was similar, “Oh well, we aren’t gonna always time.”


Drew

: Wow, well If only him the greatest, I’m hoping he is somewhere doing well. Many thanks for playing the game beside me.


Christina

: Wow, I’m therefore glad we moved two for however many we performed thereon.


Drew

: Not terrible.


Christina

: Not terrible.


Drew

: You Probably Did better than Elise did when I wanted to find out if this is an operating video game that may work, and she ended up being my guinea-pig. Therefore, she only had gotten one right.


Christina

: reasonable adequate.


Drew

: Should we move on to the major subject associated with the few days?


Christina

: let us enter it, let us get this special guest in.


Drew

: Well, I want to 1st declare that our very own main topic of the few days is bottoming, so we could only have one really special visitor.


Christina

: It really is singular person.


Drew

: are you able to please present your self?


Chingy

: Hi, i am Chingy Nea, otherwise known as The Gay Chingy. I’m an author, Filmmaker, and gasian leather-based dyke muppet. Im also The usa’s number one base.


Christina

: Yes, I think whenever we happened to be speaking about topics so we’re like, “we’re able to mention bottoming so there’s literally singular person we could have from the pod to achieve this, there is one person who is very literally the Supreme.”


Chingy

: Thank you for acknowledging, it feels good to have the greatness respected, many thanks


Christina

: Yes, therefore’ve completed great work, and right here the audience is knowing it.


Drew

: I would like to understand whenever you feel just like you became The united states’s greatest bottom. Whenever ended up being that a word and a label and an identity which you truly presented onto?


Chingy

: Well, and so I frequently only state, “I’m underneath Supreme.” Because, who cares about The united states?


Drew

: Sure.


Christina

: reasonable sufficient.


Chingy

: Yeah, i believe that I always was really proficient at bottoming, but in 2017 or something, I decided to go to a play celebration that was simply for fem top sadists conquering me personally right up for six to seven hours right, also it was only myself, and that I was like, “Oh, i am the very best that’s ever already been.” After which, i believe following that, i recently kept increasing and being, wow, I’m so fun to watch. Wow, i am very enjoyable as a bottom, this really is wow, everyone which gets to finest me personally is really happy. And, it really moved from there, i do believe, immediately after which I typed an article also known as I’m a far greater Bottom Than You. Here Is Precisely Why. It actually was form of a manifesto, it actually was a bottom manifesto.


Christina

: Yes, can verify.


Chingy

: And, many people have told me, “It really is changed the way they take a look at intercourse.” And, I really like that many. Oahu is the one article on my site that I’ve created indeed there. I created at

Vice

,

Teen Fashion

,

Vulture

—

Autostraddle

had been one location we published, actually. But yeah, that is the one blog back at my website, if you’d like to go here.


Christina

: i really like a stronger brand, i really like knowing a brand, and I think that’s actually gorgeous, simply, brand handling of your personal bottomy your self. I believe, that’s truly stunning to see.


Chingy

: thank-you, i acquired my very first writing opportunity at

Autostraddle

because I became currently talking about getting a base, and being poly, and being really strong into getting a leather dyke. And since then, i have began to reveal a lot of other items, but becoming bottom part great just type could be the one through distinct it all.


Christina

: Yes.


Drew

: In addition feel like you are an extremely effective bottom and in addition in how that you write on, and explore, and that I think experience bottoming that you are really effective. While, In my opinion there are many the queer area, maybe, especially the lesbian area, that possibly thinks of bottoming as… I don’t know-


Chingy:

Passivity

.


Christina

: Mm-hmm

(Affirmative)

.


Drew

: Yeah.


Chingy

: Yeah, we frequently declare that there’s way less soles than people believe tend to be soles. I believe absolutely an improvement between becoming a bottom and merely not knowing or seeking what you want. In my opinion those are two completely different things that people conflate.


Christina

: I would personally need certainly to concur, I also think the way that you mention bottoming is actually, after all, let us only say it, such significantly less disturbing versus means more and more people explore getting a bottom or determine with bottom society. Because, i really do believe that exactly what lots of people are saying clearly or non clearly is merely, i’m idle plus don’t care doing any type of action, task, et-cetera, i’d like situations done to myself. And, basically must look for that in in whatever way, that hurts my emotions. And, you will be brilliant and effective at being, they are the issues that i would like, bring them to me and that I will rock and roll your own world. That will be attractive for me.


Chingy

: Thank you so much, What i’m saying is, that is what you have to do as good at merely something, you must place yourself around and try and then make mistakes and get hurt a little bit, and, I am not sure, study from it.


Christina

: In my opinion that’s good information, honestly.


Chingy

: I’ve just already been bottoming since I have ended up being, I am not sure, dating back to I can keep in mind. [laughs]


Drew

: Cue “Rags to wealth” from

Goodfellas

.


Chingy

: Yeah, dating back to I can remember, i wanted to end up being a bottom. No, but sorts of, once I was 13 or 14, I happened to be currently checking out SADO MASO internet sites and lesbian SADOMASOCHISM sites. Thus, I happened to ben’t under any delusions in what I became when it comes to, I became having women we dated in senior school choke myself out, I knew what I desired. And, that degree of consciousness recently provided me quite a few years to understand what Needs and figure out how to have it.


Christina

: Beautiful, Drew, offer myself how you feel on bottoming.


Drew

: Well, i am actually truly excited to share this because personally i think like in 2019 {when I|as I|while
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